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Monday, December 16, 2013

Relationships

“I love you.” ….. “I love you too.”…. “Will you marry me?”…..”Yes!”  

Remember those words both of you spoke? Maybe recently. Maybe many years ago. Whatever the timeframe, when both of you spoke those words, at the time you really meant them. This was for life. There was the excitement of the wedding, gathering of friends and family for the great occasion. Then off on the honeymoon. All was great as the two of you began to chart out a new life together.  

“I love you.” ….. “I love you too.”…. “Will you marry me?”…..”Yes!”  

Remember those words both of you spoke? Maybe recently. Maybe many years ago. Whatever the timeframe, when both of you spoke those words, at the time you really meant them. This was for life. There was the excitement of the wedding, gathering of friends and family for the great occasion. Then off on the honeymoon. All was great as the two of you began to chart out a new life together.  

Then, as the years passed by and the kids came along and the bills as well, you found that marriage is hard work. You look at the wedding pictures and wonder, “What happened to those people?” There never seems to be enough time for you and your spouse. Between the kids, the sports, and work, there’s just never enough time for the both of you for yourselves.  Then, it happens.  You look across the table and see a “stranger” setting on the other side. The romantic feelings you once had seem to have been lost in the busyness of keeping a home going.  There seems to be a drifting apart that neither of you want to verbalize to the other but you know you’re not as close as you once were. You contemplate separation and maybe even divorce. 

But you say to yourself, “I don’t want to throw away the years we’ve had together.”  Well…you don’t have to. Marriage is hard work. But isn’t that true of any worthwhile endeavor.  Unfortunately, I have seen far too many couples that are simply will to throw away family relationships simply because, “it too hard.”  Take another look at those wedding pictures. See!  What brought you two together for that joyous day still exists. It has simply gotten lost in the busyness of your lifestyle. 

Let me encourage you to contact a marriage therapist wherever you live, make an appointment and give yourself a change to find each other again. You can call us at New Hope at 573-860-1601(02)..

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